Love is Yoga and Yoga is Love
Posted on: Aug 1, 2008
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Category: Romance and Relationships
Are you involved or committed with your relationship? Obviously, I am not speaking about losing your life when committing, but of getting to have notion, before anything else, of the difference of behavior among who wraps up and who commits.
To be involved is to feel partly, it is to be together while it is good, while it suits you, it is him/her interesting, while you don't see yourself guest to overcome difficulties, to review concepts and values, to modify their attitudes in order to do to give right.
To be involved is to be only while you don't need to lose anything, you doesn't need to open hand of something that is him/her expensive, you doesn't need to feel with less some thing in function of this relationship, of the other, of the love that you sit down.
To be committed is to make available entirely, it is to be willing the any thing - inside of the human limits, it is clear - for the love to prevail, so that your relationship survives in spite of the lost battles, in spite of having to exercise your compassion and to put in the place of the other, trying to understand their needs and desires, so that the relationship wins.
To be involved is to prioritize himself most of the time, taking into account that the relationship is only worthwhile if he/she brings him/her advantages. On the other hand, to be committed is to prioritize that triangulation that involves you, the other and the world created starting from this union. It is to know that not always the advantages are personal. A lot of times, it is necessary to give up his/her opinion, of his/her desire and of his/her time for the relationship to increase, it is fortified and become in common more solid the life.
Maybe that doesn't seem him/her a lot with romance, pansy or fairy tale, where everything seems to always be won, advantages and benefits. However, relationship is a choice subject, objective and feeling. The love does with that losses change in won, with that his/her fact gives in it transforms him/her in stronger and not in more fragile.
He/she has people that say that to live with being loved is to divide with him her his/her life. I prefer the word to "share". to Divide seems to be with just half than you were before, because he/she gives to the other the remaining half; while he/she shares it means to be with the one that you were already and still to enjoy what the other is, to win his/her essence in the intention of learning, of recognizing in him qualities that you didn't have, but that can assimilate and to pass to have.
As for the defects, that the two certainly have, you can recognize yours through the other, of the comments and requests of him; and it can also help his/her lover to develop with their requests and perceptions.
Finally, to share lives in a committed way is to turn plus, better, whole. It is to give his/her best and to recognize that there are no warranties, there are no certainties, no there is one "forever", never! For that reason, to love comprometidamente is a daily decision, it is an exercise that demands discipline and continuity. There is no love win, there is no conquered heart... there is only the personal and peculiar decision everyday of resuming him/it.
(sorry, my english is not good!)
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